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Therapists can talk for hours about how to achieve true intimacy, but a good place to start would be in bed tonight. "It's about her showing that she really wants me," he says. Paul, a 35-year-old executive, talked about how his wife sometimes lovingly strokes his face as he comes. When asked what techniques produced his most intense orgasms, Richard fondly recalled lovers who grabbed him by his butt and pulled him tighter toward them, as if they wanted nothing so much as to completely absorb him. The moment of orgasm is when those needs are most exposed, and men - even married men - can get nervous being emotionally naked. We men are really looking for the same things from sex that women are: love, acceptance, and intimacy. That's an avenue I expected would be number one on most men's hit parade. The surprise for me in interviewing men for this story was that only one of them said he enjoyed being brought to orgasm through oral sex. Will, 30, a bank administrator, for instance, says he sometimes finds he can't come at all if he's too worried about his job. That's why they're so sensitive to the environment slight changes in the wind can turn a 10-gun salute into a popgun. The biggest secret about men's orgasms, I think, is that they reveal how vulnerable we are.
The fun - for him and for you - is in mixing up the following strategies to see what will work tonight. As sensitive as men are to skill and technique, they're equally powered by mood, setting, and timing. It turns out that male orgasms are both as single-minded as they sometimes seem, and at the same time a lot more complicated. One warning before we begin: Be prepared for surprises, and for seeming contradictions. So here, finally, is everything you need to know about helping your guy have stronger, longer orgasms. It was as if they (the guys, at least) were just waiting for someone to ask. I went straight to the experts - a few sex therapists, lots of men. With this information gap in mind, I set out to discover what, exactly, makes for the most bone-rattling, foundation-shaking male orgasms, and what women can do to encourage their arrival. My guess is that the most women don't know this. What's weird is that, for all the attention it receives, the male orgasm doesn't get talked about in much detail despite the fact that there can be a huge difference in intensity from one to the next. Speaking as a male, I can't think of anything that remotely equals the thrill of an orgasm.